I wrote about trust previously...
& although I feel as though my thinking has changed a lot from the initial posts that are on this blog -- I don't think it's necessary to beat the topic into the ground.
At the end of the day, simply holding the idea that you shouldn't put your trust in people doesn't discredit the fact that the person you had faith in let you down.
This whole trust issue is a scary cycle.
A lot of people don't realize how they're actions
-- THEIR LIES, THEIR DECEIT, THEIR SCHEMES --
effect the people that have faith in them.
Anyone can memorize the scripture saying, "It is better to trust in the Lord Than to put confidence in man....." Psalms 118:8 -- but let's be real.
We are all human.
We want to trust the people we care about.
Think of how depressing life would be if you couldn't trust anyone in your life?
I'm just tired of seeing my friends hurt after finding out that the person that they looked up to was a fraud.
Or tired of finding out that the person that I hold to high standards is nothing that they claim to be.
And it sucks to watch someone being hurt after encounters with distrust -- because a common trend seems to be that they begin reciprocating that same behavior to others who don't deserve it.
Vicious & destructive cycle
In my previous blog about trust, I proposed that we "try people out" before committing to putting our full-fledged trust in them:
"Trying a person would be like giving them a chance to prove themselves to you, a chance to sit back and watch a see if they do what they say they're gonna do. See if they are someone who deserves your trust before you get wrapped up in them , thinking you trust them -- only to get hurt once more. Whether you trust them or not, once you give them a try and see that the outcome lines up with what is coming out of their mouths --- you really don't have a choice to "trust them" when the evidence is right in front of you."
Great theory but it's faulty.
Well, what is there to say after the person has been "tried", deemed as "trustworthy" & still breaks that trust in the long run? It is often the most unsuspected that hurt us the most -- the ones we thought ..."NO. NEVER. NOT THEM!" about.
I don't know .
There's really no "point" to this post. I'm just tired of seeing this cycle destroying relationships, friendships and hurting the people that I care about the most.
It's frustrating to watch, frustrating to encounter.
but -- such is life.
Tank - Heaven
Tank - Heaven