20090526

disappointment&trust.

One of the worst feelings to me is disappointment.

Disappointment in yourself...

Disappointment in you friends...

Disappointment in -- xy and z.

It's all the same. For me lately, it's disappointment in the people I choose to surround myself with. Seems like you never really know who people actually are -- even when you've known them for years. Or maybe deep down, you knew -- just chose to overlook it. I think I choose to overlook people faults because I mean, duh, no one is perfect and who am I to judge people because they slip up here and there? But idk. This ties back into what I was saying in previous blogs about how I'm feeling like you can't really trust much of anyone. Coming from me, thats a big deal because I have this sort of inverted trust problem, lol. A lot of people can't trust anyone, but me, I tend to trust any and everyone usually. I believe[d] that if you haven't given me a reason NOT to trust you, then Ima trust you until you do. AKA -- set up for getting hurt. It seemed like my thinking changed overnight on the issue. It's kind of sad when I think about it because I don't like to feel like that about people but I mean.....................it only makes sense.



And uh, never really thought about it but -- maybe trust is just a little bit overrated. How many times do we hear people in relationship or friendship crying and upset saying: "but I trusted him!" or "Man, I can't believe her! I trusted her!" and "I can't believe ____ would do me like that! They trusted me with everything!" or even in just regular friendships or with associates you find out the so&so did xy&z and your response is "wow, i never imagined they'd do something like that!" or "omg, she doesn't seem like she's the type to act like that!" ......do you ever really know people like you think you do?.................................so? I'm thinking trust is overrated right now...unless of course it's in a relationship or a serious friendship. But besides that --- why not "try" someone out before committing to "trusting" them. Trying a person would be like giving them a chance to prove themselves to you, a chance to sit back and watch a see if they do what they say they're gonna do. See if they are someone who deserves your trust before you get wrapped up in them , thinking you trust them -- only to get hurt once more. Whether you trust them or not, once you give them a try and see that the outcome lines up with what is coming out of their mouths --- you really don't have a choice to "trust them" when the evidence is right in front of you. If they do what they say they're gonna do then the evidence is right there staring you in the face, no need to try to "believe it" -- it's right there, proven. And on the flipside, we all want people to be able to trust us. If someone doesn't trust you like you think they should....why get all upset about it? Just let them try you, and once your outcome lines up with what came out of your mouth -- they have no choice but to see that who are who you say you are and you do what you say you're going to do. Think about it, trust is built from having your expectations met and/or exceeded.


But on a different note..... doesn't the Bible clearly tell you not to trust people?

"Do not trust in a friend; do not put your confidence in a companion;"
Micah 7:5

"It is better to trust in the Lord Than to put confidence in man....."
Psalms 118:8

"Do not put your trust in princes or in man, in whom there is no help."
Psalm 146:3

Before people get all worked up about that, I don't think God means to never ever trust anyone in life, but I think that people put all of their trust in man...which can be in the relationships, friendships, work, the government or anything. People get wrapped up relying on other people to meet their needs and wants --- but man in not reliable. Man is wishy-washy as we all know. So do not put all of your trust in man because that is simply a recipe for f a i l u r e. But instead...


"As for God, His way is perfect. The word of the Lord is proven, He is a shield to all who trust in Him" Psalm 18:30


This blog definitely was not intended to be this long! Wow. Oh well, but sorry for rambling.
bye.

2 comments:

  1. Basically we are friends for a reason. We all think just alike sometimes. I wish I had the answer to trust issues.

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